How to be a Martyr Parent – 7 Ways

In the spirit of giving, give until you drop.

Traditionally we think of a martyr as someone who dies rather than renouncing their religious beliefs. adds in the following two definitions: 1. a person who undergoes severe or constant suffering and 2. a person who seeks sympathy or attention by feigning or exaggerating pain, deprivation, etc.

In the spirit of giving this Christmas and holiday season, we sometimes find people who are dedicated, almost painfully, to the giving  spirit.

Here’s how to be a martyred parent:

  1. Don’t ever get a babysitter. Make sure you tell everyone that you don’t have anyone handy or that you cannot possibly fathom leaving your precious children in someone’s incapable hands.
  2. Do everything around the house, especially what the children can do. Make sure you let them watch TV while you’re sweeping the floor under their feet.
  3. Whine about needing a break, but don’t take the ones that are offered. Make sure you do it enough that no one will offer anymore, cementing your martyrdom status.
  4. Put yourself last, always. Don’t lock the bathroom door. You wouldn’t want to pee in private.
  5. Shake your head silently in disbelief when you hear other parents who selfishly work on their hobbies.
  6. Criticize your spouse’s attempts at helping out and wonder why s/he can’t read your mind.
  7. Say “yes” to almost everything, then have a bad attitude because you “resent” having to do something.

OK, we know you really don’t want to do any of that. If you find yourself actually trying any of the above, just stop.

We’re all human. Get help if needed, take a bath. Ask for a gift certificate for massage. Don’t let this season take away your spirit and the true meaning of the giving season.

It’s Surprising What Happened When I Bought Someone Cupcakes

How can you positively impact others?

There are two ways attitude can have a trickle-down effect. The first is when a someone is  in a foul mood and lashes out at an employee or spouse. That person becomes angry and doesn’t treat other co-workers or children well.

Hostess cupcakes and the trickle down effectIn the case of children, now both parents are irritated. Any mild offense the child has committed is perhaps blown out of proportion. Upset, the child then is mean to a sibling.

Now the whole family is chafed, and an atmosphere of yuck pervades the house.

Consider the opposite effect, where we treat others well. Just because.

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1 Easy Way to Improve Your Marriage

It begins with you

Just a few days ago, I happened upon a new podcast, The Catholic Guy. He’s the Personal Media Advisor to Cardinal Timothy Dolan (named by TIME Magazine as one of the most influential people in the world) and 3 time Emmy winner.

Honestly, my expectations with this podcast were not particularly high–I was expecting the show to be dry. It is, after all, it’s a religious podcast.

I couldn’t have been further from the truth. 

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Personal time

Don't lose your self of identity

Woman EntrepreneurRecently I was listening to a podcast with entrepreneurial leader and blogger Michael Hyatt and his wife Gail. Together they raised 5 daughters; Gail was a work-at-home mom while Michael toiled in the publishing world. It’s the life they chose, and it worked. But when the girls started getting older, Gail realized that she was losing her sense of identity.

She had spent so many years raising the girls that she neglected personal time to develop her own interests.

When I was in junior high school, I remember my parents having a whale of an argument, which was highly unusual. Mom wailed that she wished she hadn’t gotten married so young because she didn’t know who she was.

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Is lack of confidence stopping you?

Identify & conquer the doubts

Woman EntrepreneurPaul has always been great about envisioning success for himself and for our family. And I’ve had complete faith in him from the beginning — always have. He has that enviable combination of charm, wit, energy, smarts and personality that make others feel comfortable. Visualizing success has been with him as long as I’ve known him (24 years this month).

I, on the other hand, have always had doubt and lack of self-esteem. Although I have gotten compliments rave reviews on my massage as well as my teaching style amongst other things, I have always been humble. Too humble, according to Paul. After teaching for maybe 10 years, I finally acquiesced that perhaps I may have skills that others need. And that people love my massage because I am good.

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What is your passion?

Part 1: Why Do You Want To Be Self-Employed?

Online business help - you can do it.In Part 1 of this series of posts about – why do you want to be self-employed? – I want to talk about your passion.  Let’s define what I mean when I speak of passion.  I am NOT speaking of the strong and barely controllable emotion or the sensual type of passion.  Rather, the thing which brings enthusiasm.  What is it that brings you life and enthusiasm?  This is where one should begin when considering self-employment.

Are you saying I should make my hobby a business??  If you are truly inspired by your hobby and you love it so much you wish to learn more about it over time then this is a good beginning point.   Continue in this line of thought and ask yourself:  does the subject matter add to or benefit someone other than yourself?

Is it based around helping others and helping create a society that is moral and upright?  Can others learn from what you have to offer and pass it on to another?  Then, yes I am.

Why is it that so many of us decide that the things which we have the most enthusiasm for are

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Does your spouse make you laugh?

Laughing at life.

“Sexiness wears thin after a while and beauty fades, but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that’s a real treat.”

— Joanne Woodward

As we worked to start this blog, Paul decided to create the capture email box without letting me know what he’d worked on. This is what I discovered.

Seriously. This man makes me laugh!

There are times to be serious and times to laugh. Life can be tough enough as it is with each day’s struggles, but humor can break up that darkness like a little ray of light streaming down through a storm.

When we don’t take ourselves too seriously, we can forge stronger relationships because people will want to be with us.

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